As I was sorting laundry, preparing to wash it before we left, LaVor called me with the news that his grandfather suddenly passed away that morning. We didn't know much but knew that we'd most likely be heading out of town later that week for the services.
Have I ever mentioned that I've never driven to Utah? Have I ever mentioned the huge amount of anxiety I get whenever I think about driving that far, especially with a 14 month old who hates his car seat? I knew I had to suck up my fears but I spent the rest of the week worrying about what was to come.
The boys and I went shopping on Wednesday to stock up on snacks, packed our bags, and had everything ready to go for our early departure Thursday morning. We planned to leave around 4:00, with the intention of both boys sleeping several hours. But of course, The Lime stayed awake and Doodlebug only slept about an hour and a half. Then, as soon as we left Reno city limits, The Lime threw up. Poor kid gets that from me. Needless to say, the trip was starting off on a rocky foot.
But, we made it! And that's really all that matters. The fact that Nevada is one of the ugliest states, and most boring, and that we stopped numerous times for potty breaks, and that a certain baby screamed and cried, and nobody really got any sleep doesn't matter. We got there safely.
| Seriously, someone needs to put up billboards with trivia questions or SOMETHING to break up the 6 hours of nothing. |
We got into Utah about 3:30 their time and settled into Grandma's place while the rest of the family was finishing up some things for the funeral. It was hard for me to be in Grandma and Grandpa's apartment, knowing that she'd have to return there without her sweetheart. I think that might be one of the hardest things about death, is having a "norm" (for 60+ years in their case) and having it taken away in a flash.
When LaVor's dad, aunts, and grandma arrived, they were all visibly worn out. We visited for a short time and then made our way to the rec center down the street, to get out of their hair but to also give the kids a chance to release some energy that was bottled up for 11 hours.
This place was neat! Lots to do and their pools were way more exciting than ours. Unfortunately, after only taking three photos in about 30 seconds, the lifeguard standing next to me said, "Ma'am, you can't take any photos." I looked at him and said, "For real?!" He said yes and I asked if it was okay that I just took them of my kids. He said no. I get it, especially with social media and the privacy of children, but it still stunk.
| Practicing for when he's a real firefighter |
| Doodlebug was having a blast! |
They had a water slide in the indoor pool that The Lime was able to go on (he's a smidge short for the slide at our pool) and he had so much fun! Unfortunately, no photos.
We grabbed a bite for dinner with LaVor's aunt and her family and then settled in at LaVor's great aunt's house where we literally all crashed. I just remember laying my head on the pillow and then waking up around 4:00 when LaVor turned the ceiling fan on. We got a couple more hours of sleep before Doodlebug woke up. We were presented a delicious and healthy breakfast and were amazed at the view from the home. Again, no picture (not because the aunt didn't allow, I just forgot) but it was gorgeous. From there, we met up with LaVor's brother and his family, who drove up from Provo, at Temple Square where we got in a little visit before we had to go back to Bountiful.
| I think I took this exact same photo when I was in Utah 15 years ago. |
Shortly after we got there, I recognized a man and gently tapped him on the knee and asked what his name was (even though I knew). He told me and I told him who I was (my mom was his seminary teacher). He had no clue about me but knew my parents and older siblings. A moment later, his mom arrived and she looked exactly as I remember seeing her at stake conference. The world is small and I just knew we'd happen upon someone we knew.
We walked around the visitor center and continued around the grounds before it was time to leave.
| Pointing to the big kids, running around the flowerbeds. |
| Some of the furniture used in the temple over the years. The craftsmanship amazes me! |
| No net, no harness, nothing! Can you imagine?! |
| Cousins enjoying throwing coins into the fountain. |
| The sister missionary that took this photo is from a town about 25 minutes from where we live. |
| Us, LaVor's mom, LaVor's brother & his family |
| All of the foliage around the temple was gorgeous! |
It just so happened that one of our dear friends was working in the same town where we spent a majority of the trip. We were able to meet him for lunch and catch up on the (almost) year since we saw him last. It made us miss having good friends around!
We had Hawaiian food for lunch, and The Lime was willing to try it but quickly said it made his throat itch (we think it's the Teriyaki sauce) so he ended up getting ice cream for lunch. Lucky kid.
| His usual - cotton candy ice cream with marshmallows and sprinkles |
| My boys and their blue eyes |
That night was the viewing at the mortuary. I've never seen a deceased body before and avoided it at all costs when my grandma passed away earlier this year. In this case, Grandpa's body was propped up a bit in the casket and was easily seen from anywhere in the room. It wasn't as uncomfortable as I expected but there is a vast difference when the spirit leaves a body. Of course, Doodlebug wanted to see what was going on and made me stand at the casket for several minutes as he pointed and tried to touch.
We were all tired and hungry and decided on Cafe Rio for dinner. Neither LaVor or I have ever had it but heard wonderful things about it from friends and family in Utah. Maybe it was because The Lime was starving and on the verge of passing out, or maybe it was because the place was jammed pack and super hot, or maybe my expectations were just too high, but both of us were completely let down by the food. It wasn't the worst Mexican food I've ever had but it certainly didn't live up to the praise it's received. To Cafe Rio, I say "been there, done that."
Our next plan was to take the kids back to the hotel because nobody got naps that day but my body had a different agenda and we quickly drove the five minutes back to the mortuary where I hung out in the bathroom as people kept trying to open the door (there was only one toilet). Not my idea of fun.
After the viewing, LaVor's dad wanted to take everyone to Pace's, a diner that LaVor has been telling me about for as long as I've known him. They serve slushees with soft serve on top. Had it not been for Cafe Rio, I would have loved to finally try this yummy treat but I got to visit the restroom instead.
| He opted for just an ice cream cone. |
We woke up bright and early (not by choice, but because Doodlebug slept awful) Saturday morning and got ready for the funeral. A family viewing preceded the service, where we were able to gather everyone together for a photo. Again, it wasn't the ideal circumstances to gather together but I finally had an opportunity to meet family members for the first time after almost nine years of marriage.
| What a wonderful legacy - because of two people, all of this was created |
I rocked Doodlebug to sleep in the back of the chapel, next to my parents who kindly made the trip down, all while listening to the wonderful stories friends and family shared about Grandpa. When I married LaVor, I was so thrilled to finally have grandfathers since both of mine had been deceased for many years. Grandpa completed the amazing task of preparing over 100,000 names to take to the temple. I can only imagine the number of people waiting on the other side to thank him for his love and service.
After the service, we all caravanned to the burial site. This is the hardest part, in my opinion. It makes things absolutely final, in terms of the person physically being here. They didn't lower the casket while we were there, which I think helped (it was quite emotional at my grandma's funeral when they did that), but it was still hard knowing that was the last time we'd be with Grandpa in this lifetime.
| LaVor and his male cousins were the pallbearers. |
| I loved all of the tulips they had at the services. Grandpa also served in the Navy prior to serving a mission. |
| Grandma with her children. |
From there, we headed to a luncheon that was held at one of the church buildings Grandpa built. When LaVor's dad was a young teenager, their family moved to Europe where Grandpa built several other church buildings in Holland and Germany.
While we were there, LaVor's dad took us around and shared with us the family's rich history in this particular area. Several extended family members still maintain residence in this area and it was neat to know they're "keeping it in the family."
| The home where LaVor's dad grew up |
| LaVor's grandfather (Grandpa) built this second home for his parents. |
| This was the first home Grandpa built for his parents. |
| The home Grandpa grew up in - built in 1930 |
| The family dairy |
| Built in 1925 - Home sits on same property as dairy |
Our friends kindly drove down to the area so we could meet up for a quick visit. The kids instantly picked up right where they left off (a year ago when they dropped by our place) and LaVor and I had a wonderful time catching up with Jason and Nicole, and Nicole's mom. Again, it made us desperately miss having great friends nearby!
On the way back to the hotel, we caught an amazing sunset. The sky seems to be a bit closer in Utah than it is at home. The moon looked magnificent every night, too.
We made it to the hotel just in time to grab a bite of pizza and let the kids play with their cousins for a bit. A bit ended up being until 11:00 but everyone was having such a good time, we didn't want it to end. Honestly, I don't remember the last time we laughed so hard as a family. It was a nice ending to a somber weekend.
Sunday morning arrived way too soon and we packed our bags, filled our bellies, and said our goodbyes to Grandma before we hit the road.
Since we got married, we've been promising Grandma and Grandpa that we'd come visit them. We never had a reliable enough car to make the drive to Utah until we bought our current vehicle. So we decided this would be the year to visit. We are kicking ourselves because we waited until it was too late. We all know this life is temporary but now, more than ever, I want to take advantage of every opportunity given to me so I don't have to have any regrets. Don't hold grudges, be appreciative, love until you can't love anymore, be kind, and enjoy every moment given to you.
